10 Shocking Reasons Why Divorce Is SO Common These Days

“In life, things happen for a reason and divorce is one of those life events that just doesn’t happen by accident. Many couples find themselves wondering should we break up as a result of ongoing relationship problems. Marriage counseling can certainly help to provide answers. In today’s day and age, more marriages end in divorce, I’ve compiled a list of the top ten “symptoms” or reasons why divorce happens.”

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And guess what? Cheating is NOT on the list.

If you think that sexual infidelity is the leading cause of divorce, you’ve got it all wrong. We polled over 100 YourTango Experts to see what they say are the top reasons married couples decide to split, and, believe it or not, communication problems came out on top as the number one reason marriages fail.

Here are some other culprits our experts blame for the alarmingly high divorce rate:

1. You jumped into marriage for all the wrong reasons

Marrying for money — we’ve all heard that that is a ticket to a quick divorce — but what about when you marry because it’s what you think you should do?

I’ve met many divorced women who say the problems that made them leave were there right from the beginning but “everyone expected us to live happily ever after” or “we had already spent so much money on the wedding” or “we had just built our dream home.” So, remember, until you say “I do,” you always have the choice to say “I don’t!”

Read more: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/yourtango-experts/top-causes-divorce-expert

Getting Divorced or Separated? 7 Financial Mistakes Not to Make

“Separation or divorce is a stressful and upsetting time. It can also have a big effect on your finances. Because you never know what can happen, it’s vital to protect your money and assets from the potential ravages of divorce. If you suspect that your divorce will be a knock-down, drag-out fight or if you’re certain that your divorce won’t go smoothly, prepare to take the following steps prior to the start of your divorce.”

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Breaking up is always hard to do. But just because your life has been upended by a divorce or separation, it doesn’t mean your finances have to suffer, too.

That’s exactly what can happen, however, if you make any number of wrong moves when you’re unwinding a relationship.

Here are seven financial mistakes you must avoid once you decide to end a marriage:

1. Thinking that a mediator will protect your financial interests.

Many of us think that all divorces inevitably devolve into epic, drawn-out battles over money and property, complete with bitter screaming matches, chronic stress, and “I’ll get you!” style threats, kind of like The War of the Roses, the 1989 film that starred Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner.

Read more: http://www.dailyfinance.com/2011/06/09/getting-divorced-or-separated-7-financial-mistakes-not-to-make/