“Dating is the process people go through when they want to meet and/or get involved with potential romantic and/or sexual partners. Dating is how people get to know each other and determine if someone is a suitable partner for them. There are many different types and styles of dating. Not every form of dating will be done by every individual or culture of people.”
I just read an interview Taylor Swift had with Vanity Fair and I couldn’t help but feel extremely confused over something she said. When asked about her dating life while sipping on lavender lemonade (because of course she was asked about her dating life while she was sipping on lavender lemonade), Tay-Tay said, “If you want some big revelation, since 2010 I have dated exactly two people.”
Um, girl… we all know there’s been more than two people. According to Vanity Fair, those two people she was talking about were Conor Kennedy and Harry Styles. I’m sorry, did we forget about Taylor Lautner, Joe Jonas, John Mayer, Cory Monteith and Jake Gyllenhaal (and those I forgot about)? Because, Taylor, you’ve been linked to all of those dudes since 2010.
Hold on a sec: please don’t jump down my throat because you think I’m making fun of Taylor for the amount of guys she’s dated – I’m not. I don’t care how many guys Taylor dates and neither should anyone else. If she wants to date 20 guys in one year, she can. Go for it. More power to ‘ya. I’m not her biggest fan, but I’m not trying to slut-shame her here. There’s nothing wrong with a girl who dates around.
Here’s why I was left so confused: what is dating to Taylor Swift? The article immediately made all of us here at the Gurl office wonder what dating means to Tay-Tay herself… and actually, what does dating even mean to any of us?
Is dating a term that is only reserved for more serious relationships? Or is dating a term reserved for only very casual relationships? Is dating the same thing as hooking up? Is it considered dating if you guys only kiss? Is going out on one or two dates considered dating? What is dating?! Someone help me!
“Confidence is the sexiest quality any man or woman can possess. When you are confident, you stand out. It can be a slow process, but you have to try to get to the point where you are okay just being yourself, no matter how desperately you really do want a relationship. It might be hard work. It might take a long time. It might mean investing in your friends, in your hobbies, in whatever it is you do that makes you happy and relaxed.”
In my article on why guys suddenly lose interest, I discussed how caring too much or stressing over your relationship can irreparably damage it. The article sparked an avalanche of e-mails and comments from women who were feeling panicked over the state of their relationship. Most understood the point I was making in the article, but rather than relaxing and just going with the flow, they wanted to know: “How can I fix it if I was stressing too much?” “What should I text him to fix the situation?” “Is it OK if I tell him XYZ?” “Is he gone forever?” “How can I get him back?” OK, full stop. This is exactly the problem Eric and I have been addressing at length, not only on the site, but also in the newsletter and on our Facebook accounts.
But I realized that identifying the problem is only half the bat
“Did you know that the third date can really be the deciding factor between ‘just friends’ and ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’? It’s true, many relationships make it or break it in the third date. You know what we mean when we talk about third date expectations. Although modern dating mythology has long thought of the third date as the date when sex becomes a realistic possibility, heading into it with that assumption won’t do you any favors if you’re looking for a real relationship.”
A third date is the thin line that separates dating from a relationship. Use these 10 third date tips to make your date fall in love with you.
A third date isn’t just a date.
It’s actually a thin line that can determine the direction of the dating game.
If you’ve been on two dates with a special someone, and both of you are still keen to see each other again, it’s definitely a good sign.
During a third date, you’re practically a couple already. But as you’re still only two dates old, it’s too young to give the relationship a name.