“Confidence is the sexiest quality any man or woman can possess. When you are confident, you stand out. It can be a slow process, but you have to try to get to the point where you are okay just being yourself, no matter how desperately you really do want a relationship. It might be hard work. It might take a long time. It might mean investing in your friends, in your hobbies, in whatever it is you do that makes you happy and relaxed.”
In my article on why guys suddenly lose interest, I discussed how caring too much or stressing over your relationship can irreparably damage it. The article sparked an avalanche of e-mails and comments from women who were feeling panicked over the state of their relationship. Most understood the point I was making in the article, but rather than relaxing and just going with the flow, they wanted to know: “How can I fix it if I was stressing too much?” “What should I text him to fix the situation?” “Is it OK if I tell him XYZ?” “Is he gone forever?” “How can I get him back?” OK, full stop. This is exactly the problem Eric and I have been addressing at length, not only on the site, but also in the newsletter and on our Facebook accounts.
But I realized that identifying the problem is only half the bat
“In life, things happen for a reason and divorce is one of those life events that just doesn’t happen by accident. Many couples find themselves wondering should we break up as a result of ongoing relationship problems. Marriage counseling can certainly help to provide answers. In today’s day and age, more marriages end in divorce, I’ve compiled a list of the top ten “symptoms” or reasons why divorce happens.”
And guess what? Cheating is NOT on the list.
If you think that sexual infidelity is the leading cause of divorce, you’ve got it all wrong. We polled over 100 YourTango Experts to see what they say are the top reasons married couples decide to split, and, believe it or not, communication problems came out on top as the number one reason marriages fail.
Here are some other culprits our experts blame for the alarmingly high divorce rate:
1. You jumped into marriage for all the wrong reasons
Marrying for money — we’ve all heard that that is a ticket to a quick divorce — but what about when you marry because it’s what you think you should do?
I’ve met many divorced women who say the problems that made them leave were there right from the beginning but “everyone expected us to live happily ever after” or “we had already spent so much money on the wedding” or “we had just built our dream home.” So, remember, until you say “I do,” you always have the choice to say “I don’t!”
“As people stay in the dating pool longer than ever before, women are continuously inundated with advice on whether or not to sleep with someone on the first date. For most guys, if you’re interested in a woman enough to pursue her, ask her out, and take her on a date, then you’re probably interested enough to want to take things in a physical direction, too. As long as it’s safe and equally consensual, you do what’s best for you.”
Nobody likes first dates.
They’re awkward, they usually involve some kind of drink or meal that you’d rather not share with a stranger, and there’s always that hesitant question at the forefront of both your minds: Are we going to have sex later?
Thanks to a lot of poodle skirts and antiquated ideas about dating, first-date sex has become a topic of controversy, with many of us still believing in the shameful stigma attached to it.
Despite our generally enlightened attitudes in this new-age hookup culture, we’re still viewing sex on the first date as a make-or-break moment, leaving most of us to agonize over what the right move is.
“Did you know that the third date can really be the deciding factor between ‘just friends’ and ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’? It’s true, many relationships make it or break it in the third date. You know what we mean when we talk about third date expectations. Although modern dating mythology has long thought of the third date as the date when sex becomes a realistic possibility, heading into it with that assumption won’t do you any favors if you’re looking for a real relationship.”
A third date is the thin line that separates dating from a relationship. Use these 10 third date tips to make your date fall in love with you.
A third date isn’t just a date.
It’s actually a thin line that can determine the direction of the dating game.
If you’ve been on two dates with a special someone, and both of you are still keen to see each other again, it’s definitely a good sign.
During a third date, you’re practically a couple already. But as you’re still only two dates old, it’s too young to give the relationship a name.
“Separation or divorce is a stressful and upsetting time. It can also have a big effect on your finances. Because you never know what can happen, it’s vital to protect your money and assets from the potential ravages of divorce. If you suspect that your divorce will be a knock-down, drag-out fight or if you’re certain that your divorce won’t go smoothly, prepare to take the following steps prior to the start of your divorce.”
Breaking up is always hard to do. But just because your life has been upended by a divorce or separation, it doesn’t mean your finances have to suffer, too.
That’s exactly what can happen, however, if you make any number of wrong moves when you’re unwinding a relationship.
Here are seven financial mistakes you must avoid once you decide to end a marriage:
1. Thinking that a mediator will protect your financial interests.
Many of us think that all divorces inevitably devolve into epic, drawn-out battles over money and property, complete with bitter screaming matches, chronic stress, and “I’ll get you!” style threats, kind of like The War of the Roses, the 1989 film that starred Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner.