“You can’t always change your parents’ hearts and minds, and not all couples experience a blissful, stress-free family integration, especially in the early stages of a relationship. But who knows? Maybe everyone will come around in due time. For now, try these strategies to keep the peace while you find the balance between your new boyfriend and your own family’s expectations.No matter what the reason, where do you go from here when all hope of a happy, non-confrontational dating life that includes both boyfriend and family seems lost? Follow these four steps to get to the bottom of the conflict and heal the rift as best you can.”
So, you’ve found the partner of your dreams! You want this person to be a part of your future, the two of you have big plans for your lives together and naturally, you want to introduce this wonderful human being to your friends and family. The only problem is that your nearest and dearest don’t exactly share your fond views of your partner. What’re you to do?
Before you can work out how to handle the situation, you need to assess how serious it is.
Do your friends/family:
- Simply give off a strange vibe as if something is a little out of place when your partner is around?
If so, read Situation 1.
- Express concerns/make negative comments about your partner to you?
If so, read Situation 2.
- Make negative, passive-aggressive or undermining comments while your partner is in the room or to their face?
If so, read Situation 3.
- Completely refuse to have anything to do with your partner, including making negative comments about them, issuing you ultimatums or deliberately excluding them from parties/events etc.?
If so, read Situation 4.