Not all vacation can work for couples. Both of you will have high expectations as well as doubts about whether you made the right decision by going on vacation together. Well, how will you survive your first vacation as a couple.
We’ve all been there: You’re scrolling through Instagram and between shots of brunch and bulldogs, your index finger pauses on a “candid” snap of an old acquaintance and her day-old boyfriend frolicking on a beach in Lisbon. Surrounded by turquoise water and cotton candy clouds (made all the more pink by filters aplenty), it’s no wonder she chose to share that moment over the screaming match she surely must have had with her travel mate a few hours prior. The fact is—regardless of how social media fogs our perception—jet-setting with your significant other can be tough, especially for new relationships. “As much as people love to travel, it can be very exhausting,” says Rachel Sussman, New York–based therapist and relationship expert. “Delayed flights, discomfort, misinformation on hotels and vacation spots—a lot can go wrong, which produces stress. If one is under stress, they’re not their optimum self.” Booked a getaway with your new beau? No need to fret. Pack these tried-and-true tips and tricks for how to get the most out of your first-ever vacation with the new leading man or lady in your life.
Play to Your Strengths
Well before takeoff, talk to your Romeo about trip-centric areas in which you feel comfortable taking the reins. “Try to tackle problems in a team approach, using your best skill sets,” says Sussman. “For example, if one person is a better communicator, this may be his or her job. If the other person is better at planning daily activities or booking dinner reservations, this will be his or her job.” By applying a “you complete me” approach, both partners will feel as though they’re contributing to the success of the vacation as a whole, while avoiding unnecessary tugs-of-war. Not quite a whiz at deciphering directions? Don’t let road maps get you down. Talk through your strong suits and make a loose list of what you and your partner are responsible for tackling.