Top 15 reasons why couples break up

Relationship breakups are never easy. It is important that you look past the pain of a breakup and find ways to cope even when things seem impossible.

 

If we consider the history of the institution of marriage, all of us would agree that it started at the time of creation itself. Man and woman are different both biologically and in mental makeup. However, the creation would not continue if man and woman do not come together. The physical and emotional needs unite man and woman and marriages take place. Till the beginning of the twentieth century, joint families and lifetime single marriages were quite prevalent. Divorces were few and far in between. However, things started changing as more and more women took up careers and achieved financial independence. The dependence of women on men declined and even small disagreements were magnified to a large extent that they were considered to be impinging on the individuality. Let us consider the top 15 reasons why couples break up.

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  1. Desire to be independent.
  2. Getting attracted to another person.
  3. Infidelity.
  4. Physical incompatibility.
  5. Less attracted to the person in a sexual way.
  6. Lack of proper body maintenance, like becoming too fat.
  7. Conflict in tastes and desires.
  8. Continuous nagging.
  9. Comparing the man or woman to others constantly
  10. Imparting unsolicited advice all the time
  11. Addiction to alcohol or drugs
  12. Deterioration in the health of one spouse or suffering from incurable ailments like HIV
  13. Physical and mental abuse and exhibiting sadistic tendencies
  14. Ignoring or showing disrespect to friends and relatives of one spouse Impotency or inability to bear children.

The above reasons are all chief causes for a marriage breakup. Sometimes, one reason alone might be enough for separation, while in several cases, a combination of a few of them lead to divorce. In this list, getting attracted to another person and infidelity might appear similar, but there is one important difference between them. In the former, the man or the woman might become more interested in another person and might think of leading a life of marriage with that person as a better option to …

 

Read more: http://www.love-sessions.com/why_break_up.htm

Top 10 Underpublicized Reasons to Seek Couples Counseling

“All marriages require work, but when one or both partners start to feel emotionally disengaged the marriage becomes highly vulnerable to further deterioration without outside help. Marriage Counseling can be helpful in a variety of situations, large and small. Married life isn’t always easy. After the rush and excitement from the wedding and honeymoon fade away, reality sets in. Marriage counseling is nothing to be ashamed of or to fear. Anything that can get you and your spouse back on track is a good thing. Whether you have large or small issues, marriage counseling can help you work through them  together.”

The Top Ten Underpublicized Reasons to Seek Couples Counseling

Do you notice everyone around you is in couples counseling? I do, because I’m a couples therapist. But even among people I meet casually, it seems everyone is going. The stigma of seeing a couples therapist will probably reverse soon.

So, why be left out of this trend? All around you, couples are improving their marriages, and you’re stuck in an uncommunicative, non-intimate, frustrating relationship that makes you feel bad five days out of seven.

“But,” you say, “I have only threatened divorce a handful of times, only under stress, or when we are fighting, which is only often and not constantly, and half of the threats are in my own head. We still have sex at least a couple times a month, and I like my partner at least half the time. Well, a third. What percentage is a fifth again?”

“Surely others,” you continue, “who are truly bad off, are the ones who need couples counseling. My spouse just needs to figure out how not to be such a jerk, and then we will be fine.”

To this series of defenses mixed with white lies and outright denial, I rejoinder, snappily: “If your leg was infected, would you wait for gangrene to set in before seeking medical attention? Do you think marriages improve as you get farther and farther away from the honeymoon period and have more stressors, some which crawl and destroy your home, to contend with?”

Read more: http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/08/15/top-10-underpublicized-reasons-to-seek-couples-counseling/

8 Tips To Help Console A Grieving Friend

“It’s never easy to find the right words to say. Whether a friend is stressing over a family hardship or experiencing a bad break up, it’s a pretty tough job to make someone feel better. For some of us, supporting people going through a difficult time can be confusing or awkward, no matter how much we want to be present for them.  Below are some suggestions that might be helpful.  Not all of these will apply to every situation, so use them only if they feel appropriate.”

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Grief can make decision-making difficult, and other things to keep in mind.

When a friend is grieving the loss of a loved one, it’s easy to feel helpless. Sometimes we think we’re doing the right thing by trying to cheer them up, pointing out the positives or letting them know that they should try to move on. Well-intentioned as we may be, those efforts tend to put pressure on them and leave them feeling invalidated. Here are eight ways to help you support your friend in times of need.

  1. Let go of time expectations. The person grieving may struggle for longer than expected. If this happens, regardless of how frustrating or frightening it may be for you, let them grieve for however long they need, knowing you won’t judge them for it. Take A Deep Breath: 3 Ways To Help You Stop Worrying
  2. Recognize the stages of grief. Most people suffering a loss will go through these stages, often in no particular order and sometimes repeating stages: denial, bargaining, anger, depression and acceptance. Each one is healthy and necessary. The more familiar you are with these stages, the better equipped you’ll be to support your friend.
  3. Variables to grief. One person’s grief is never the same as another’s. Variables include the cause and length of death, the personal resiliency of the grieving person, what their previous experiences have been, how large their support network is and their relationship to the person lost. Be understanding of how this can change their experience of grief from your own or someone else you have known.

Read more: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/kate-evans/8-tips-help-grieving-friend

How to Stop Stressing When It Comes to Dating & Relationships

“Confidence is the sexiest quality any man or woman can possess. When you are confident, you stand out. It can be a slow process, but you have to try to get to the point where you are okay just being yourself, no matter how desperately you really do want a relationship. It might be hard work. It might take a long time. It might mean investing in your friends, in your hobbies, in whatever it is you do that makes you happy and relaxed.”

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In my article on why guys suddenly lose interest, I discussed how caring too much or stressing over your relationship can irreparably damage it. The article sparked an avalanche of e-mails and comments from women who were feeling panicked over the state of their relationship. Most understood the point I was making in the article, but rather than relaxing and just going with the flow, they wanted to know: “How can I fix it if I was stressing too much?” “What should I text him to fix the situation?” “Is it OK if I tell him XYZ?” “Is he gone forever?” “How can I get him back?” OK, full stop. This is exactly the problem Eric and I have been addressing at length, not only on the site, but also in the newsletter and on our Facebook accounts.

But I realized that identifying the problem is only half the bat

Read more: http://www.anewmode.com/dating-relationships/stop-stressing-dating-relationships/

Third Date Tips to Fall in Love With Each Other

“Did you know that the third date can really be the deciding factor between ‘just friends’ and ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’? It’s true, many relationships make it or break it in the third date. You know what we mean when we talk about third date expectations. Although modern dating mythology has long thought of the third date as the date when sex becomes a realistic possibility, heading into it with that assumption won’t do you any favors if you’re looking for a real relationship.”

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A third date is the thin line that separates dating from a relationship. Use these 10 third date tips to make your date fall in love with you.

A third date isn’t just a date.

It’s actually a thin line that can determine the direction of the dating game.

If you’ve been on two dates with a special someone, and both of you are still keen to see each other again, it’s definitely a good sign.

During a third date, you’re practically a couple already. But as you’re still only two dates old, it’s too young to give the relationship a name.

Third date tips to fall in love

The third date is almost always the deal maker.

The first date tests the likeability.

The second confirms that and tests the romance.

Read more: http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/dating-game/third-date-tips